Not every family enters this reset from the same starting point. Some of you are holding on by a thread, wondering if you can ever get back what you’ve lost. Others are in a pretty good place but want to be intentional about staying there. And many of you are somewhere in between: doing okay some days, struggling on others, never quite sure if you’re doing this parenting thing right. This quiz will help you understand your family’s current connection pattern so you can focus your energy where it matters most.
Discover Your Connection Personality
For each question below, choose the answer that best describes your family. Keep track of your letter choices (A, B, C, or D).
- When your family has free time together, you usually:
A) Have a specific plan or activity schedule
B) Do your own thing in different room
C) Hang out together but often with devices nearb
D) Go with the flow. Sometimes together, sometimes apart - Family meals in your house typically look like:
A) Sit-down dinners; most nights include conversation
B) Everyone eating at different times or in different places
C) Eating together, but screens are often on
D) A mix: some meals together, some on the go - When your child has big news (good or bad), they:
A) Come to you right away to share
B) Don’t share; you usually find out from someone else or much later
C) Tell you eventually, but it takes some prompting
D) Share when the moment feels right - Your family’s phone habits are:
A) We have clear rules and phone-free times
B) Everyone’s pretty much always on their device
C) We try to limit them but it’s inconsistent
D) We’re mindful but flexible depending on the day - In the last week, you’ve had meaningful conversation with your child:
A) Multiple times; we talk regularly
B) Barely at all, mostly logistics
C) Once or twice when the moment presented itself
D) A few times, though not as much as I’d like - Your child’s current interests and struggles:
A) I know them well and we talk about them often
B) I’m honestly not sure what they’re into right now
C) I know some, but I’d like to know more
D) I have a general sense but details are fuzzy - When conflict arises in your family:
A) We talk it through and work toward resolution
B) We avoid it or shut down
C) We try to talk, but it often escalates or goes nowhere
D) Sometimes we handle it well, sometimes we don’t - How often do you laugh together as a family?
A) Daily or almost daily
B) Rarely; can’t remember the last time
C) Occasionally, but not as much as we used to
D) Once or twice a week - Your family’s bedtime routine includes:
A) Connection time: talking, reading, or tucking in
B) Everyone goes to bed separately whenever they want
C) A quick goodnight, but not much more
D) It varies depending on how busy the day was - When you think about your family’s closeness:
A) We’re in a good place: close and connected
B) We’ve drifted apart and I’m worried
C) We’re okay but I know we could be closer
D) We have our moments, but it feels inconsistent
SCORING:
Count your letters:
- Mostly A’s: The Connected Crew
- Mostly B’s: The Drifted Apart
- Mostly C’s: The Inconsistent Engagers
- Mostly D’s: The Flexible Floaters
Your Family Connection Style:
THE CONNECTED CREW (Mostly A’s)
You’re doing great. Your family has strong rhythms of connection, regular communication, and intentional time together. You know what’s going on in your kids’ lives and they know they can come to you. The Connection Reset will help you maintain these patterns and deepen them even more, especially as kids grow and schedules get busier. Your challenge: Don’t get complacent. Keep investing in connection, even when things feel good.
What to focus on during your reset: Weeks 3 & 4 when you’ll be creating sustainable rituals and designing your family’s future together. Use this time to make your strong foundation even stronger.
THE DRIFTED APART (Mostly B’s)
You’re not alone. Life got busy, habits formed, and before you knew it, everyone was living parallel lives under the same roof. The good news? You can find your way back. The Connection Reset is designed exactly for families like yours, families who want to reconnect but aren’t sure where to start. It won’t be easy at first, and your kids might resist. That’s normal. Keep showing up. Small, consistent changes add up.
What to focus on during your reset: Week 1 is crucial. Notice your patterns without judgment. Then commit to Week 2’s daily swaps. Even 20 minutes of intentional connection can begin to shift the tide.
THE INCONSISTENT ENGAGERS (Mostly C’s)
You have good intentions and occasional good moments, but connection feels hit-or-miss. Some days you’re fully present; other days, screens and busyness win. You know you could be closer, and you want that, but maintaining consistency is hard. The Connection Reset will give you a structure to build on. Instead of connection happening only when conditions are perfect, you’ll create intentional patterns that work even on chaotic days.
What to focus on during your reset: Week 2 focuses on one intentional swap daily. This is your sweet spot. You don’t need perfection; you need consistency. Even small, daily deposits of connection will transform your family culture.
THE FLEXIBLE FLOATERS (Mostly D’s)
Your family life is a mixed bag. Some days feel connected, others feel distant. You adapt to your circumstances, which is a strength, but it also means connection isn’t predictable. Your kids might not be sure when you’ll be available. The Connection Reset will help you create more predictable patterns of presence so your family knows they can count on connection time, not just hope for it.
What to focus on during your reset: Week 3 is all about creating new rituals. Your family needs sustainable rhythms that don’t depend on everything being perfect. Build small, repeatable habits that become automatic.
